Marriage Counseling: Lessons from an Allegory Part 2 of 2

How would the three sons find a solution to their problem wondered Marriage Counseling Bonita Springs FL.  The story concludes as follows:

So the three sons went back to their tents in the desert.  As they sat together and discussed their plight, the conversation became more agitated and shrill toward one another.  Their conflict became more entrenched and hard feelings were developing.  This is to be expected.Suddenly, over their raised voices; they heard a camel approaching their camp.  Looking up, they recognized the rider as one of the wise men of the region, one to whom people would turn with their disputes.  The sons decided to ask the wise man for his advice.  They certainly needed help observed Marriage Counseling Estero FL..

When they had told him about their problem, and the man asked the sons about their needs, he sat and thought. (What would you do in this situation?)

After further discussion, an idea emerged from something one of the sons off-handedly said.  The wise man then declared, “I will give my camel to your father’s estate.  That will give you 18 camels.  (How does that help asked Marriage Counseling Fort Myers FL?  Here is the answer.)  Following your father’s wishes, half shall go to the oldest son: 9 camels. One third shall go to the middle son:  6 camels.  One ninth shall go to the youngest son: 2 camels.  9 plus 6 plus 2 makes 17 camels.  That leaves one camel left over which I would ask that you give back to me.”  The sons were thrilled with this idea.  They not only gave the man back his camel, but loaded it with gifts of appreciation.  This mediator did for them what the law could not do and what they could not do for themselves: make peace.  As he rode off, the brothers were very grateful the help this wise man provided.  They relationship returned to normal and the animosity ceased.

Although this story is an allegory, it well illustrates what a third party professional, such as Dr. Ken Newberger, can do for you and your spouse when you find yourselves in a similar, seemingly impossible situation.  Take a look at his website at MarriageCounselingAlt.com View his process for helping couples who entangled in conflict.  Then give him a call for a free telephone consultation.  Dr. Newberger will see you in his office if you live in Naples FL, Fort Myers FL, Bonita Springs FL, Ft Myers Beach FL, Estero FL, Cape Coral FL, Punta Gorda Florida, or the surrounding areas.  Begin to wok on your marriage problems today, before they get out of hand.

Marriage Counseling: Lessons from an Allegory Part 1 of 2

The following story has been told by Marriage Counseling Fort Myers Fl. In Arabia many years ago there lived a rich, Bedouinsheik who owned 17camels. He had three sons of 20, 19 and 12 years of age.  Because the sheik was advanced in years and realized that his days were numbered, he made a last will and testament.  It read, in part, “I will that my oldest son shall inherit 1/2 of my camels as he will have to be responsible for all our clan.  My middle son, who will serve as his brother’s assistant, shall receive 1/3 of my camels. My youngest son is still a child and the older sons will have to care for him; nevertheless he shall get 1/9 of my camels. A short time later, the father died.

The difficulty the sons had in carrying out their father’s wishes was that he left 17 camels. Marriage Counseling Estero FL asked, how would they make the division?  After discussing the matter at length to no avail, they went to a judge for a decision.  The judge suggested that the sons sell all camels and split the money. But the oldest son said, “I will respect the will of my father who did not want us to sell our inheritance.  The judge said to the sons, “why don't you rent your camels to a merchant and share what he will pay. This way you keep the property and have an income that you can share in the ordered splitting.”  But the second son objected and said, “I am a merchant myself I need my camels for my work.”  The judge grew impatient and said to the sons, “the only solution, then, will be for you to slaughter the camels and eat or sell their meat. But the youngest son started to weep.  He said, “I have grown  up with the camels, I love each one of them. They must not die.”  The judge was frustrated by the dilemma and said, “your case cannot be solved by law.”   Such dilemmas occur on a regular basis when working with couples in conflict notes Marriage Counseling Naples FL.

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Dr. Ken Newberger, who holds a PhD in Conflict Analysis and Resolution understands the seemingly intractable situations in which couples find themselves.  If you find yourself in a difficult marital situation and nothing has so far has worked to alleviate it, he may be of real help to you.  View his website to see the process he uses when working with couples.  Go to MarriageCounselingAlt.com or call him directly at 239-689-4266.  If you live in Southwest Florida, he is office is conveniently located between Fort Myers and Naples.  He can also assist you online if you live outside the area.  Call him today.  He stands ready to help.